What Are You Worth?
That’s a tough question I’ll bet. By worth, I’m not talking about how much you’re worth in dollars, but something far more priceless – YOUR self-worth.
Self-worth is another word for self-esteem and self-respect. Worth nowadays is measured by the external image that we show the world. What brands we wear, the holidays we take, the friends we make, the parties we attend and so on. Society is focused on the image we portray more than the substance underneath.
Is your value in the Instagram photos you take of your food? Is it in the amazing life you share on Facebook? Maybe it’s the shoes you wear or the iPhone you carry? Wait is it in the stellar muscles you build?
The outward appearance of success that social media and modern society encourages has created a stage for narcissism and even pseudo-narcissism. Countless people – young and old – hide behind false identities, out of fear of being judged as “boring”, “unsuccessful”, or “poor”. They fear facing reality.
Are we more than our image?
Of course! We are more than the image we show the world. Whether you’re following the trends, or rebelling in order to stand out, you are more than the insecurities that drive you. Imagine what the world would be like if everyone truly believed they were their outward appearance?
Then who are we?
You’re whoever you want to be. We have lost ourselves to the convenience of the online and global community. We can be whomever we want, but the online world allows us to merely extend the masks we wear to face the world. Instead of just playing our roles before our physical communities, we continue it online too. But if your only value is in your image, then what will you do when you’re older, or even if some unfortunate accident happens? What will you do when you’re left alone with your thoughts?
Why do we hide behind these masks?
Because it’s easier. It creates a safe comfort zone for us to cocoon. Even people who are always out for the next hot new experience are wearing masks. Everyone wears them. We created these masks to protect ourselves as kids and carried them with us into adulthood. Over the years we forget we’re wearing them and so believe the parts we play.
So where does my value lie?
Inside you. You were born and simply put, YOU have value. End of story. You don’t need to have a fancy life, or car. You don’t need to have a gorgeous partner or a tonne of money. You are valuable the way you are. You are precious no matter what. You decide your self-worth and value – no one else can dictate that for you.
How do I find my self-worth?
Reconnect with that part of you, that child that existed before all the masks, before the world and your parents began placing demands on you. The memories may not come easily, but they’re in there somewhere. There was a time when you accepted yourself for who are – unconditionally.
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is your relationship with yourself. People come and go, but you will always be there. Isn’t it about time to give yourself some real attention?
Let me know where you believe your value lies. If you’re interested in exploring and working on your self-worth and confidence – Contact us now and book a session!